Now, Cry Later, Worry

I remember when my daughter is a third class closed some years ago.
I cried.

A few days later he took two boxes of old photos, looking for those they could stick in his diary. I came home from yoga in the kitchen and eating rice cakes with almond butter, gazing at the picture with her. Lilly for three or four plays into our old home in Santa Barbara. With friends. With family members who have passed on since.
I cried.

I went to church, not long afterI know it was the first service in the new building a beautiful structure of love. The hymn "Amazing Grace swollen ...
I cried.

I cried because I want it filled me with nostalgia this season a season of separation, the children need the next size up in shoes, the smell of mown grass, the light of the incredibly long evenings, by the desire to be the person to be the day on which to draw my last breath, I can rest in the knowledge that "I married a wife in amazement. I 'sGroom, the world in my arms. "To quote the poet Mary Oliver's poetry when death comes.

What is becoming clear to me during these turning points is my longing to embrace the world, through my faults that I see when I am next to grow. Because I was in the kitchen, the taste of almonds was on my tongue, and flipped through snapshots of Lillian, what I remember, not the weight of their little feet with your hand or the silk of her hair on my cheek, butAs I was always nervous in those years. While I was worried about being a good enough mother. As I did before.

I've seen pictures of Lillian laugh, smile, smile, sleep, spinning, jumping, painting, and I thought. "Do you know what you look really happy, I think she did a good job." I saw how much more difficult of my life was and is, because I eat fear, my fear, my hand extortion.

While I was there in my sweaty yoga clothes, I saw how concerned I use asWay to do my best. I have come in over the years to worry, anxiety, see a mental functioning to-do lists, as a sign I'm not a screw up. As an indication that I care. As a safety net between me and the large errors (shots in a ghost who wanders the heels).

How I learned to do this? What treatments do you need? You know, I do not ask why. What I care about, as I studied more photos of my daughter's preschool Sweet Years are now deceased, was not that I'mmost of my life in the future-oriented, handshakes mind from worries.

The question I ask myself: What are other ways to be our best, the ones that are rooted in fear and anxiety? Here are my first thoughts.

1) Pay attention to current reality. As Robert Fritz, author of "The Path of Least Resistance teaches you how to create your life or your art of knowing what you want and know what is the current reality, then remove the tension between the two organicto be transmitted.

The role that is glossed over, how hard it can be seen with present realities. We live in a soup of assessments (interpretations / stories), which can feel like reality, but often more closely resemble Oz Naming statements (statements which are statements to show how "I have blue eyes" or "And degrees '68 providing to the outside ") can be seen, the best way to present realities. Then I was worried for two lessons to give an International Conference. Instead,worrying, I have a piece of paper, and wrote all the declarations about the meeting:

I have given about 600 interviews in the last 11 years.

I have computer files containing notes for various conferences and talks.

I have nothing specific to my question yet willing to say.

I have not yet specified, the results I want to do with any of my calls.

I did not choose something to wear.

I have not yet confirmed the land transport.

Naming the current realitynot about to scare you or comfort themselves. It is about what is quietly and take a step back to examine it. I find when I'm deeply invested in thought, I need someone to help me with the statements of current reality. My coaching clients have to do the same. E 'extraordinarily liberating our attention, and we often retreat to the allegations again and again.

2) Do you trust your own deepest experience. If I am concerned that I may take a moment tomelody and breathe in my body and mind. From here I can make an application aware of the type "What is most important to me in this situation?" And then: "How can I focus on the importance of a place of trust?" Make a conscious move to a deeper understanding of the surface as sound.

3) for assistance. How many times must we live in fear because we, we have to do (if "it" up our children or the production of reports or plan your trip) to take alone? We are all given a celestial bodyTicket after birth - a map that we call the Divine as well as other people in order to allow help. Remove the paper from his wallet and use.

4) Use to soothe your body. Breathing, walking, yoga, Tai Chi, you jump on a trampoline with the kids, a massage: all to be calm your central nervous system long enough for you in a position to realize what really happened to feel him close.

And breathe in the meantime!